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February 26, 2015 82 Comments

when the going gets tough

tough goingWhen the going gets tough may I resist my first impulse to wade in, fix, explain, resolve, and restore. May I sit down instead.

When the going gets tough may I be quiet. May I steep for a while in stillness.

When the going gets tough may I have faith that things are unfolding as they are meant to. May I remember that my life is what it is, not what I ask for. May I find the strength to bear it, the grace to accept it, the faith to embrace it.

When the going gets tough may I practice with what I’m given, rather than wish for something else. When the going gets tough may I assume nothing. May I not take it personally. May I opt for trust over doubt, compassion over suspicion, vulnerability over vengeance.

When the going gets tough may I open my heart before I open my mouth.

When the going gets tough may I be the first to apologize. May I leave it at that. May I bend with all my being toward forgiveness.

When the going gets tough may I look for a door to step through rather than a wall to hide behind.

When the going gets tough may I turn my gaze up to the sky above my head, rather than down to the mess at my feet. May I count my blessings.

When the going gets tough may I pause, reach out a hand, and make the way easier for someone else. When the going gets tough may I remember that I’m not alone. May I be kind.

When the going gets tough may I choose love over fear. Every time..

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  1. nancy says

    February 26, 2015 at 8:49 am

    Thank you!

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    • Fabiana says

      April 24, 2023 at 12:03 pm

      So wonderful to have your soulful words back in my inbox. ❤️

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  2. Jena says

    February 26, 2015 at 8:56 am

    My first impulse is to keep this forever. But a prayer like this has the power to keep me, so that I don’t have to hold on so tight when the going gets tough. Deep gratitude.

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  3. denise says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:00 am

    Glorious. Thank you, Katrina. Because a prerequisite of life is that The Going WILL Get Tough, thank you. xo

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  4. Susan says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:03 am

    Just what I needed this morning. Thank you

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  5. annettealaine says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:03 am

    Spot on. Thank you for putting into words what I often feel myself.

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  6. Ellen says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:12 am

    Strength, grace, faith. May we all have these in abundance.

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  7. Amy says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:16 am

    Thank you, my friend. I cherish these words, and you. xoxo

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  8. susan says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:25 am

    Thank you Katrina, a beautiful prayer that I needed this morning. I think I will memorize it.

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  9. Bethany says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:25 am

    I’m having a very difficult week and your words are just what I needed to hear. Thank you.

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  10. Denise says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:26 am

    What beautiful words. Thank you.

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  11. Cris says

    February 26, 2015 at 10:17 am

    A calling for every day…..

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  12. Alison Petraske says

    February 26, 2015 at 10:27 am

    Your amazing words always seem to enter my life at the right time. Thank you. xo

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  13. Rudri Bhatt Patel @ Being Rudri says

    February 26, 2015 at 10:29 am

    Thank you, Katrina. Such wisdom. xo

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  14. Pamela says

    February 26, 2015 at 10:51 am

    Thank you. This is the prayer of prayers. Thank you for letting this come through you and for sharing it. This is divine. But oh that snow!!!!

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  15. Rivkeh says

    February 26, 2015 at 10:52 am

    Katrina – I am actually finding myself glad I didn’t know your writing before we practiced together at Kripalu because I feel I would have been so much in awe of you and distracted that you were just a few feet away from me! I feel very blessed to have had our paths cross. Thank you for sharing this beautiful guidance today. 🙂

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  16. Patricia Battaglia says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:00 am

    It’s all these things that become so hard to remember when the going gets tough. These lovely words are all the more important for that very reason. Thank you!

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  17. Ann O says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:02 am

    Thank you! This is beautiful and something to refer back to time and again!

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  18. Erin Taylor says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:03 am

    Wonderful prayer, Katrina and spot on as always. I so appreciate you sharing your heart with us here.

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  19. Tracy says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:06 am

    Brilliant and beautiful! Thank you! Sending you love!

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  20. Ellen says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:07 am

    Thank you, words to remember and most definitly words to pass on… thank you.

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  21. Kim says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:10 am

    Simply, thank you.

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  22. Tanya Wilkinson says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:11 am

    This prayer is exactly what I needed to hear this very moment. Once again, your beautiful words have profoundly impacted my life. Thank you, Katrina.

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  23. Judy Manzo says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:21 am

    Katrina- as always your words are poetry- this prayer is so right on!

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  24. Nancy S says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:22 am

    Katrina — you are fabulous! I love reading your writing. It always touches me. This, in particular, was just beautiful. I really needed to read this on this grey cold NH morning. Thank you.

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  25. Amanda says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:24 am

    I love this for how it at once acknowledges that times will be tough and that we are united in our humble efforts to not be undone.

    Exquisite.

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  26. Erin Becker says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:32 am

    Wow, thank you ❤️
    Your prayer has reframed “tough” for me! I now see “tough” as simply a distraction!

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  27. Jeg says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:40 am

    Hi Katrina,
    I have been your silent fan for almost 4 years now. I am also a mom like you. And I think you are the words I cannot find. Everytime I read your writings, I would end up nodding and shaking my head and say to myself – that was what I wanted to say and she said it exactly the way I wanted it to be. thank you for your art in writing but most importantly, thank you for putting my thoughts in your thoughts and words. More Power Katrina Kenison! P.S. I have decided to purchase my very first Katrina Kenison book after so many years.

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    • Green Piggy says

      January 1, 2021 at 4:34 pm

      Thanks for saying EXACTLY what I wanted to say Jeg. I am an avid reader but nothing has ever touched me like Katrina’s words. They feel like a warm hug to my soul ❤️

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  28. Irene Labombarde says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:40 am

    Beautiful message as always, Katrina. And very timely. I’m struggling with a situation beyond my control, involving a difficult person who has chosen silence over communication. It’s been challenging riding out the storm but this is a reminder that I need to be patient and keep my mouth shut right now while I wait for things to improve.

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  29. Karen says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:43 am

    Thank you, Katrina. I am reading Magical Journey. You just continue to bless me.

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  30. Sue says

    February 26, 2015 at 11:59 am

    Thank you!

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  31. Suzanne Durville says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:00 pm

    Thank you. Your message could not have been more timely. I am drying my tears and rereading your words. Thank you.

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  32. Jilly says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    It has been a very difficult week here.
    Thank you for this exquisitely, timely reminder of what celebrating the gift of each ordinary day really means.
    Thank you Katrina <3

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  33. Liz Day says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:09 pm

    When the going is tough thank you for wordsmiths and poets who capture some of that which I am feeling and graciously share it. Blessings to you and yours xxx

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  34. Chris Wells says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:20 pm

    Simply Thank You.

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  35. Katherine S says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    Thank you Katrina. I especially needed this today. Printing it off now.

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  36. Angela Muller says

    February 26, 2015 at 12:53 pm

    Katrina, I cannot think of one person who would not be made better by reading and believing in your words. Thank you!

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  37. Carol says

    February 26, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Thank You Katrina. You have a true gift in compiling and expressing thoughts and feelings that we all can so clearly identify with. So often your writings hit home with me and comfort me in knowing that I am not the only one dealing with these issues both good and troublesome. Thank you for brightening my day over and over again.

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  38. Barbara says

    February 26, 2015 at 1:18 pm

    Thank you.

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  39. Mark says

    February 26, 2015 at 1:31 pm

    Great!

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  40. Joanne says

    February 26, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Thank you Katrina. This showed up at exactly the right time today. Funny how that happens. ..eh? Stay warm.

    Joanne

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  41. kate says

    February 26, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    I love this. It creates the same kind of space in my mind that I feel when hearing someone read aloud the Desiderata, by Max Ehrmann.

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  42. Cece says

    February 26, 2015 at 2:58 pm

    Thank you!! It’s was like you knew exactly what I needed to hear today. I will carry this passage with me. Thank you for sharing your incredible gift.

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  43. Linda Marten says

    February 26, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Thank you Katrina. Your words always soothe my soul.
    As one who has had to learn to stand in her truth instead of run when times get rough, I’d like to add to your list – “I stand for myself and against no one.”
    Thanks for sharing your beautiful words.

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  44. Melodye says

    February 26, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    As it is written, may it always be. xoxo

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  45. Christine says

    February 26, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    Wonderful words to return to again and again. Thank you!

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  46. Cynthia says

    February 26, 2015 at 4:46 pm

    Thank you… Perfect and timely!!

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  47. Lindsey says

    February 26, 2015 at 4:50 pm

    This is perfect, Katrina. Shimmeringly, piercingly perfect. Thank you.

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  48. Ann Cooney Ross says

    February 26, 2015 at 5:44 pm

    Thank you and thank you many times over. This year has been tough at my job for different reasons. Tougher than I have ever had it. So, I needed this: to read, to ponder, to reflect and to digest. I have been doing some soul searching to find a better path “when the going gets tough.” And , yes, we all are connected and can relate and be comforted. We are not alone.

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  49. Ellen says

    February 26, 2015 at 5:53 pm

    I love this, Katrina….thank you for your wisdom.

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  50. Vicki says

    February 26, 2015 at 7:10 pm

    Beautiful words from a beautiful and gracious woman. Thank you, Katrina! Your words are a blessing to me.

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  51. Carolyn says

    February 26, 2015 at 8:55 pm

    This very moment I’m remembering a little girl that was courageous, brave,inquisitive, caring and giving. And always thankful and full of love. Please know that your words soothe my soul every day. And also, please know that you reign supreme in my thoughts, prayers and love.

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  52. Val says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    Powerful words of wisdom… Always enjoy your blog posts- thank you!

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  53. Gerry says

    February 26, 2015 at 9:57 pm

    This is something to print and keep, to read often! I shared it on my Facebook page.

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  54. Jennifer Wolfe says

    February 26, 2015 at 10:07 pm

    Oh Katrina, thank you. I love this: “May I remember that my life is what it is, not what I ask for. May I find the strength to bear it, the grace to accept it, the faith to embrace it.” Exactly what I needed to hear. xoxo

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  55. Jill Fauchald says

    February 27, 2015 at 12:45 pm

    I have one word…wow!!! What a gift to have these words. Thank you for sharing, as always. You have this innate ability to put to words amazing, powerful, sometimes healing, sentiments and deliver it to your readers, followers, supporters at the timliest of times. Thank you for sharing your gits with us. Thank you for this.

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  56. Betsy says

    February 27, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    Perfect timing for you and for me too. Thank you for sharing it, Katrina. I will print this now and keep it next to those mediations and prayers I reach for when the road beneath my feet turns to sludge and I can’t make sense or headway.

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  57. Leslie Kelly says

    February 27, 2015 at 3:22 pm

    Thank you for these beautiful, inspired words.

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  58. Margaretnan says

    February 27, 2015 at 6:31 pm

    i was just diagnosed with terminal bowel cancer two weeks ago and have been floundering and lost. This has given me so much comfort. Thank you.

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  59. Caren says

    February 28, 2015 at 11:05 am

    This is just what I need to hear–today and every day. Thank you so much.

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  60. Zemar says

    February 28, 2015 at 12:50 pm

    Very moving words, just what I needed to hear. Thank you!

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  61. Sheree says

    February 28, 2015 at 7:08 pm

    Thank you & bless you!

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  62. Eugene says

    March 1, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    A beautiful and transformative gift to all of us who care and search. Thank you.

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  63. SandiO says

    March 1, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    Thank you Katrina…I needed this reminder today!

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  64. C.A. says

    March 1, 2015 at 8:35 pm

    Suddenly ‘retired’ after 30 years.
    Took a drive in the foothills. Makes my soul sing! Thank you for these words that do, too!

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  65. Brenda says

    March 2, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    Succinct, elegant, and comforting. Thank you.

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  66. Tura says

    March 2, 2015 at 5:35 pm

    Thank you, Katrina. Moment by moment decisions shape our days. Will we live and love well, or waste the time we’ve been given? Blessings to you.

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  67. Joanna Cole says

    March 2, 2015 at 8:33 pm

    My going is getting tough. This is my nightly prayer. It has a very calming effect.
    Many thanks Katrina.

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  68. Merry ME says

    March 4, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    It took me a week to read this all the way through. It was just what I needed after a long hard day. Thank you.

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  69. katepickle says

    March 8, 2015 at 9:24 pm

    Fabulous!

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  70. Diane Ranney says

    March 14, 2015 at 11:40 am

    I had not read my e-mail on a regular basis for a while as times are tough…and beautiful and I love the prayer. Am printing it and might just think about taking some of the lines to felt into a pillow for when I need the words to penetrate my fuzzy brain…thank you.

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  71. Madre Julie says

    March 18, 2015 at 11:41 am

    My good friend read your inspired words at the ending of a day long seminar for grieving widows of faith. The women stood and cheered upon hearing your wise and wonderful words. Thanks for being you and sharing with us.

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  72. Pat says

    March 19, 2015 at 10:49 pm

    Such a beautiful prayer and so timely for me. Thank you!

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  73. Jodi Biglow says

    April 20, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    Bless you! This is a life-changing reminder.

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  74. Maynard Brock says

    April 28, 2015 at 11:36 pm

    thanks Beverly. Need to read something like this every once in a while, don’t we

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  75. Maria Teresa Chavez says

    February 28, 2020 at 1:52 am

    Oh you did it again – those are my very thoughts more beautifully essayed in words! Thank you so much Ms. Katrina. Your writings always engender some form of awe and deep inspiration in me.

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  76. Gretchen says

    December 31, 2020 at 4:38 pm

    Thank you for the tears that fell while reading when the going gets tough. Thank you for your insight and the ability to write about it and the choice to share it with us.

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  77. Dianna says

    January 1, 2021 at 3:15 pm

    Simply beautiful. Thank you.

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  78. Horsewoman says

    July 24, 2025 at 11:52 am

    Thank you!!! Somehow your words are always just what I need to hear.
    Your writing is a blessing.

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  79. Anonymous says

    July 24, 2025 at 3:31 pm

    Thank you. Just what I need today and going forward.

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  80. Erin says

    July 24, 2025 at 9:43 pm

    A gift to read this today. Bless your healing journey.

    Reply

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